In early November Charles and I had the chance to get over to Bend, Oregon. We were excited to explore the vibrant community and beautiful terrain we keep hearing so much about. This trip really meant a lot to the two of us as it was a trip of healing and moving forward.
In late October I experienced a miscarriage at around 7-8 weeks along. For those of you that have gone through this, my heart goes out to you. I was told over and over again how common this is, but in the several weeks of time that it took for me to fully miscarry, it felt lonely, scary and emotionally and physically unbearable. The physical pain and toll it takes on your body is no joke and something I had truly not expected. It was hard to find information that I needed and people to talk to about what I was going through. As I started reaching out to other women, it did become apparent that this is something MANY of us go through, but no one really seems to talk about. The entire experience was really traumatizing for me and something that I think should be normalized and discussed so much more than it currently is. Without going into too many intimate details, I felt it was important to share this with all of you in hopes that it may help someone else feel less alone. I am here for anyone that needs an ear to listen, someone to share your experience with or just a great big bear hug. Women are powerful, strong freaking badasses and sometimes we just need to come together and support each other when life doesn’t go they way we’d hoped or planned. I am here for you and you are not alone! To all of my clients and friends who showed me so much love and support during this time, I will never forget it. I am endlessly thankful for you.
I am so grateful for these memories with Charles and for an opportunity to get away from the daily routine and let our minds relax after this emotional roller coaster. We spent the weekend loving one another, healing together and exploring a new place: one of our very favorite things to do. We stayed at a SUPER CUTE Airbnb right in downtown Bend that allowed us to walk into town and down to the river! It was 62 degrees and sunny the entire time we were there. The shops and businesses downtown are really well curated and it’s clear there is a strong and supportive local small business community there. We had the best time visiting the ABUNDANCE of breweries, walking along the Deschutes river, checking out Mount Bachelor, eating the most delicious breakfast ever at The Lemon Tree and meandering around at Smith Rock. Smith Rock will forever be one of my favorite places to visit. It’s absolutely stunning and pops out of nowhere as you’re driving towards Bend. A must see if you’re heading that direction!
Here’s some fun photos from our trip. I can’t wait to go back!
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Beautiful photos. Pray that God will bless you with a little one soon.
Thank you for sharing this experience with your readers, Katy. I agree – women’s health, childbearing, loss, fear, and grief are all topics we shy away from … which doesn’t help us process any of it. I’m so glad you and Charles had time to pause, reflect, grieve, and heal together, and I hope that journey continues for you both. Beautiful images as always – I want to crawl under that Pendleton throw right now. 🙂
Emily, you are the best. Thanks for reading through my story and for reaching out. It’s been a wild ride since last October, but I have found the best support system and strength within myself I didn’t know I had. Thanks for being such a kind of loving presence in my life!
Thank you for sharing, youvare sonright that this is too offten an untold story. I also understand this pain. I was so in grief for the baby I lost. For me tho, turned out to be a blessing as Kristin was the baby that came after, and what would my life have been without her. I hope you gave yourself space and grace to heal. <3
Lisa!!! Thank you so much for sharing this with me and for these kind words. Kristin is so special and I am so happy to know you both!